Tuesday, July 24, 2012

I am pretty proud of myself.  Today was the first time in a week that I haven't cried about transitioning. Yesterday, I even had a moment of "I am happy to be done with them..." as I giggled with my boss.  She laughed and said that the new replacement will "have fun with them".  I love my boss...she is an amazing woman.

I've been pretty smart about the transition so far.  I think I picked out a great company that is much easier going than I am used to.  I will be in the same position but I have skills that others do not have, thus, I will be somewhat a pioneer and power player.  This new company is very eager and very happy to have me, as they should be.  I do rock at what I do and I can run circles around others. Or so I think...

As the transitioning, I will be doing a longer commute until our house sells or hubbies company buys it from us (within 60 days).  Our new house is set to close in mid September.  We are getting a brand new spanking house and I am excited about that.  Our new mortgage rate is going to be $75 cheaper than our current home plus we get a new home and 600 more sq feet.  It's a ticky tacky but we will make it our own.  We will live about 5 minutes from some swinger friends but our relationship is purely vanilla now that I highly doubt if we will hit it with them one day.  Humm, though I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it.

When it concerns swinging I wonder how it's going to work in the future.  Not that we are even discussing it but the thoughts are there.  Right now, we are somewhat anonymous in our community.  We rarely run into others and we just do our thing.  In our new community, it's smaller.  You know the type of community that everyone know everyone else's business.  In fact, my husband has coworkers who live right down the street from us and they already know we are buying the home before anyone else.

Our friends swing with others who have kids on the same sports teams and other various community activities.  We've seen them sexting back and forth while at a soccer game with their fellow friends.  I don't know if I could do that.   It's like "yeah, I fucked you last night but now I see you in full mommy mode at the game".  I couldn't imagine in the future going to my son's school and seeing a dad/mom I was with the week before.  What about if people talk?....they tend to always do....lots of risks.  I like being anonymous...I like others not knowing my business unless I share.    So how do people do it?  My kind of fun is being anonymous at a party and just letting things flow.  We love not knowing others.  Our friends have a group of 10-20 couples who have all been with each other.  That semi freaks me out, like "hey I was with them, susie was with them, john was with them, etc".  That just seems too close to me.  We giggled last night that the friends will probably stop inviting us to their parties now that we are a few minutes away....we'll see.



2 comments:

  1. Mrs. Learning,

    I am glad to hear you are at least thinking about your future as swingers. It bodes well for how things are in your life. SM and I have the potential to be assigned to a much smaller town on my next assignment. There is no swingers club, but there is a community. I do not like the idea of swinging outside the club for the same reasons you are mentioning. Is there a nearby town with an active scene? If not, we may both have to get over our hang-ups and at least give it a try.


    TTFN
    Mr. No Na,e

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  2. Even in the Boston suburbs, after a yr or two of swinging, we learned that it's a pretty small community, many friends had also fucked mutual friends, I kinda feel like it can't be avoided eventually. But within the local community? That's too close for comfort.

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