Swinger: Well, you know you are truly heading down the vanilla route when a friends so you some pictures of hedo and all you can see is an old dude getting sucked off in tube socks and think "damn, that dude is as old as my dad. I wouldn't want to see that happening". My friend was shocked that I didn't find it hot at all. It was like "no, that is not hot....pictures of guys of my dad's age getting sucked off is not for me man. That would make me run from hedo". I must be vanilla. I can't get into the mind set "wow, look at them screwing". I was more fixated on the ages. You know that is a sign of returning to vanilla probably. When you are swinging, I don't recall really noticing people's ages too much. Though it is funny that is all I saw when I saw the text.
Our friends are in hedo next month for the first time and they are going alone so they are trying to meet up with some people via the websites so they can get a feel for the place. That can be smart but that can be in a way, a pain. What happens if they meet some people online only to meet them at the place and they annoy you for the whole trip? I would be petrified at that. It's hard to tell people, "hey, you are nice but I am not swinging with you". We never really mastered that one. We'll see how it goes for them but you have to laugh.
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Mrs. Learning,
ReplyDeleteA very interesting post. I find swinger feeling can come and go and are most certainly based on your mood. For example, SM and I have not been out for over a month now and already, I am feeling the effects. I have run out of things to blog about, I am not as easily aroused as normally and I have stopped feeling frustrated that we cannot get out to Miami Velvet. There are no negative feeling between SM and I, but I feel like the middle aged man who has begin to loose interest in sex. That being said, I know the next time we go, I will quickly get in the mood again.
As for learning to say no, I know what you mean. We are not particularly good at it, but we have yet to be put in a truly awkward position of being directly propositioned and saying "no". To date it has been physical clues we have chosen to ignore or not return. I would love to take you and your hubby out here to show you how fun and easy a swinger night can be with the right people and environment.
TTFN
Mr. No Name
I wouldn't say that your response to the photo makes you vanilla, rather it demonstrates that you have taste!
ReplyDeleteLearning to say no? We're still learning that one, I should have done so on Thursday night...
Ah, you guys are right. Mr. No Name, I know how you feel about swinging going in and out. Right now it's been closer to two years since we have done anything with others. We did go to some clubs to observe, hit a party, and meet and greet. Thank goodness it met our needs or I would be going crazy. I also appreciate the sexy bloggers out there that I can live through.
ReplyDeleteHubman, you are damn straight I have taste :) no tube sock swingers for me. Even when we were swinging, we wouldn't have touched those folks with a ten foot pole.
"Hey, you are nice, but we're not swinging with you" works pretty well. If they get their feelings hurt and keep pestering, then "fuck off" tends to drive the point home.
ReplyDeleteAlso, like hubman said, you're not vanilla for having standards. Old people don't do it for me either. I assume I'll have to change that stance in 15 years, but for now it is where I will live.
Hope all is well. - Josh
Josh,
ReplyDeleteThe great thing about aging is that your definition of old changes. One of my kids friends referred to my wife as a Cougar (he thought he was out of ear shot).
When I was 20ish, a Cougar was mid 30's. Now that I am mid 30's a cougar is closer to late 40's or early 50's.
TTFN
Mr. No Name