Oh what an interesting lifestyle!

Energy wise I'm trying to find some.  Either the weekend kicked my ass or the pregnancy is.  

Anyways, had a great coversation with Mrs. DJ.  Haven't seen them in a month and she found out from a mutual friend that I was expecting so she was so excited for us.  I wanted to tell her in person but the cat got out of the bag...this community is so incestous.  Everyone knows everyone so information is readily shared amongst people. Watch what you say! We had a cool conversation of sharing of play...do you tell your regulars (they have regulars too) or not? We both came to the conclusion that it's best not to because what is the intent? Yes we want to tell our closest friends how much we enjoyed getting fucked but how does that impact the regulars? But then when the regulars find out, what happens? Mrs. DJs friends freaked out and treated them like crap.  She noted that they were devasted and jealous.  Mrs. DJ noted that their regulars began to diss the other couple they played with.  Thinking about our own experience this past weekend, yes we thought our regulars were kind of slumming but do you think we would tell them that? Hell no! We enjoy them and would never put them in that situation.  Too bad Mrs. DJs regulars put them in a tight spot because that does hurt and cause confused feelings.  

Another thing I learned lately that it's hard when you get to be friends with both husband and wife.  Like you learn too much where you are like "REALLY?" humm...that gets complicated.  In my line of work I deal with confidentiality all the time so my mouth is like a steal trap but man, I so want to shake the two.  They both know that there's stuff they need to work on but it's so important that they need to flush things out because it could get potentially scary which makes me want to run from them both as playmates...humm sometimes it's bad to know too much!  

We Survived the Weekend Gracefully!!!

I was able to channel my normal learning self yesterday.  I must admit that it take take a bit to come out but she came out.  Things got pretty ackward with the new couple and regulars.   We were intruding on their second date....there was no question about that. It was like what are Mr. Learning and I going to do? After breakfast we went up to the office to check in.  On our way to the office, we stopped and looked at a Subaru Outback that was parked outside of a site.  It was gorgeous.  A woman came out and noted "oh are you looking at my flat tire?" and we noted no we were looking at the car.  But Mr. Learning being the good man who he is, fixed it. She was very nice and it kind if set the pace for the weekend.  We checked in.  While the new couple and regulars went down to pool.  We walked around and it started to rain.  Regulars went into the club house to play cards with new couple.  Mr. Learning and I decided to give them some space and came back to the camper.

They come back for lunch.  We were in the process of eating and they came in.  I got a telephone call so I left for about 20 minutes.  Came back to listen to the regulars and new couple critique a woman at the shower. It was overwhelming to me.  I just got stick to my stomach.  It was horrible!  Then they wanted to go back to the pool area.  They asked us to go and I was like after their bashing conversation there was no way that u was going to go.  They were horrible.  I had major anxiety to the point that I was panicing about being naked in front of others.  So they went down.  Mr. Learning and I sat in the trailer and I was filled with utter frustration.  I didn't want to run but I knew I couldn't hide.  Decided after a while of chatting what to do, to go down by the pool.  Got there and I was straight up with people that I was scared.  A woman named Maureen had me come over and  sit by here.  We chatted and after some pep talk from her, I was able to go into the pool.  Made it into the pool and we started chatting with some people.  After a while, the regulars and new couple got up and noted "we are going back to the fantasy tent(only place you coukd have sex in the open) and back to the camper".  We told them to have fun.  We chatted with more people and we met Mr. Ray.  He was very nice after we told him our situation.  Him and his wife invited us back to their camper to have dinner.  With it being so odd at our site we jumped on the offer.  Mr. Learning and I didn't know what to do then for the next few hours.  After some talking, we decided to avoid going back to the camper and dinner was at 5:30.  Around 5:15, Mr. Regular and Mr. New Couple came down and noted that they were thinking about dinner.  We noted to them that we got an invite from a couple.  Told them thanks for thinking of us, and gave a good time.  We got ready and we had a lovely dinner with them.  They gave us a tour of the campground afterward.  Chemistry with them was nice.  We came back from dinner and the regulars were hanging out.  I asked if we were giving them plenty of couple time and they noted "don't worry about it".  We just fell back into our regular role with them by the vanilla relationship we have.  We got ready for the dance and set off.  We didn't wait for them because they were talking about getting there later so why waste time?  We met up with the Rays and danced some.  Mr. Ray touched me how I like to be touched.  Gentle kisses and hand on back of the neck.  The regulars and new couple came down and we sat by them.  They danced a little but they stayed huddled in the corner.  Mr. Learning and I got out there and danced.  They regulars and new couple announced that they were going back to the room.  We told them to have fun and we would give them some space.  We danced some mote and then we went over to a little bar called the hanger that was at the site.  We chilled more and after a couple of hours we got back to the camper.  

That's the trip so far.  I think we handled it the best we could.  We are happy that the regulars connected with another couple because we found out they have not since knowing us for the past year.  We were able to give them respectful space yet not totally blow them off. We were able to socialize and meet new friends.  

What I learned this weekend (can't include Mr. Learning because we haven't debriefed) is that we have to stop travelling in a way with the regulars.  Best bet is that we are there  but there should always be different sleeping quarters, drive seperate, don't put ourselves in a 3rd wheel position, and that we have evolved as swingers.  The regulars have turned into more vanilla friends than play partners, something I didn't want to be honest about but they have.  It's not that we won't play with them but in a way, they are staying where they are as swingers and we are changing. We are more social now chatting with everyone, they haven't changed in the past year.  I feel more confident in my people skills, I feel comfy with going up to people, leading the way, and being myself.  We'll see where life takes us but I can see us in a way distancing a tad from the regulars.  We'll still hang out but the frequency will be less because it has to be.  They need more time to pursue others while we figure out where our journey needs to go.  We are changing and learning :)           

Why why why do we get into these type of situations?

Okay so I'm sitting in swingers limbo now...regulars wanted to go to a swingers nudist campground.  We weren't doing anything this weekend so we decided to go.  Hummm...second guessing that decision now.

  They invited a new couple that they met a few weeks ago.  We havent met them prior so we didnt know what we were walking into.  The kast time we met anither couple with them it was their friends in Chicago.  They were old and freaky.  This new couple are very nice to chat with but we totally have no interest in them at all...not our type.  For me the guy is way to short and the gal doesn't bring anything to the table.  I think the biggest thing is the personality is flat.

The one thing that had gotten us in the whole is that we are feeling like we are intruding.  It started out as fine but it grew more ackward as the night progressed.  It's like we are intruding on their second date.  Very ackward...

We have this flat out rule with our friends if you want to be with another couple, go be with another couple.  If you are expecting us to be into group stuff if we are not into all parties, well I can't.  I wish I possessed the skill to fuck my husband when I'm in a situation like that but I can't.  It's like a deer in headlghts and I don't want anything to do with it at all.  I'm feeling like that today.  Who knows what the day will bring but to tell you the truth, I need an attitude fix stat!  I need to be my charming Learning self but I feel kind of trapped in this limbo situation.  I guess it makes it worse that accomodations is a fifth wheel.  When we went to bed last night the whole place was completely rocking from regulars and the new couple fucking in their own beds.  I think I need to shoot myself because I'm just kind of uncomfortable right now and hoping the day will pan out okay.  Please let me have an attitude adjustment, please!        

No snappy tittle for this one ;)

Made it back from vacation in one piece!  Rammstein was amazing.  It was such a mans concert though...flame throwers, fireworks, setting a man on fire, and stuff like that.  The coolest thing us that a member of the band got into a boat and he was surfing the crowd.  Very entertaining!  I loved people watching too because there was some amazing sights.  I don't think they could ever do  that show in the US.  So it was well worth the 16 hour trip out there. Funny thing is that when we crossed the border, we got pulled over for a random check by the border police. No issues but we were an hour later getting home :(

We have the day to chill :) run a few errands, etc.  But I have to tell you that there's no place like home.  Nothing too much on the radar right now.  We had an offer to have some friends come down from Canada that we met at a B&B this weekend but we declined because didn't want to entertain them for the whole weekend.  Instead we are going to meet up with them at a party we are attending in a few weeks.  They are excited because there are slim pickings when it comes to being a swinger up in Canada...old ugly people and other stuff.  I was chatting with Mr. Chemistry and he asked if we were planning to do stuff with them.  I have no idea if we are...we never plan for stuff like that but in a way we are not.  They are a full swap and if I was a horny full swap Canadian I would be trying to find a full and not bother with a soft swap couple like us.  Mr. Chemistry noted to me that I shouldn't sell us short but really....come on, if you are full, horny as hell, come from swingers hell, wouldn't you search out a full? Hell, I would! We'll see how it goes.

Mr. Chemistry noted that they get to land part of a couple that they have wanted to bang, this coming weekend. The female half has been given full permission to swap so she is going for it.  I guess Mrs. Chemistry is not into the male half because his dick is the size of a sushi piece and he is a sloppy lover. So they get to have an experience with her.  Swinging is an interesting lifestyle, that takes a lot of major trust to allow your spouse to have her (or his) own experiences.  I will never get to that point in our own relationship, just not strong enough emotionally to do such a thing.  I know my limits as a person and I cannot see myself going that far out.  I know the lifestyle is a progression but for me, I don't want to go that far out where it could cause some emotional issues for myself.  I'm very hard on myself emotionally plus uber sensitive (if you haven't picked that up yet) so I don't think I have any business fooling around with a full.  Prior to being pregnant, I really did want that experience for Mr. Learning with Mrs. Regular but knowing where they are at really killed that idea plus in a way, killed our desires of doing a full.  I have to say there is something safe about a soft swap...you go to that edge...you want more of course...but you just don't for some reason... 

Quebec City is amazing...

We are enjoying vacation and I'm totally relaxed now.  Quebec City is amazing!  If you cannot make it to Europe it's worth checking out because of the culture.  We saw the Black Eyed Peas on Friday night along with 60,000 other people and tonight we are going to check out Rammstein.  We also got to see a free Cirque de Soliel show and that was awesome. It was under a freeway.  They do it almost every night.  Then we raced over to the largest movie projection show.  It took my breath away.  This city is amazing, full of culture.  

I've had some spotting lately.  It's scary but the doctor noted that I cannot stop anything if I was to miscarry.  I just need to wait and see.  That sucks :( so today we are going to take it easy.  

Swing club in Montreal...

It's been hellish driving in Canada.  The traffic is a nightmare and things seemingly get backed up for hours upon hours for simple construction.  We'll have to remember that going home.  We made it to Montreal last night.  Walked some of the town and discovered that it reminded me of downtown Chicago.  Nice busy atmosphere, lots of stuff to look at, and young people everywhere.

We decided to hit club Auberge 1082 because Chez Louis was having a gang bang.  I asked if we could watch it and they noted more that they were looking for participants.  I'm not into that so having the thought of "oh I have to participate" would be thanks but no thanks! We headed off to A Auberge 1082.  It was about 10 minutes from the hotel.  We arrived and it was very clean.  Walked down some stairs, checked in with the girl, gave her $20.  She gave us two towels and noted that we are to change into them.  I was like "so I can't wear this in?" (pointing to my dress)" and she noted "no".  We get undressed in their extremely clean locker room and debate about the shoes....on or off? We sat there 2 minutes trying to figure that out until we walked out with them on only to discover that you needed to take them off so we ran back to do that.  We finally made it to the area to find one couple who were both extremely hairy and two single dudes.  We sat and chatted for a bit then we played some pool.  Mr. Learning showed me how to play.  After the game, we observed one of the single guys stroking himself and the girl hollered at him noting that he could not do that there...just up in the fantasy room. I couldn't hit the hot tub nor the sauna so after some mire chatting we left.  It would have been a killer night on the weekend.  You can just tell by the set up but on a Thursday night not so much.

I think we are going to hit some major language barriers in Quebec.  We already hit some here in Montreal.  Mr. Learning is anxious to get there to settle in.  I'm a tad nervous too so we'll see where that goes :)

Name change :)

Name change...decided to change the name of the blog to Learning to....  We are always trying to live our life to the fullest that's why we got involved in swinging and so far it has been wonderful.  Though I can't pretend that there are changes coming our way.  So the format is going to change a little.  Swinging will be involved but so will the other stuff :)

We are on our way to Quebec.  We really needed this trip.  Yesterday was a tad stressful.  I had some spotting so that had me nevered up the whole day.  We spent the night in Toronto and I have to tell you, it looks like an amazing city.  We don't have any time to explore it today so hopefully we can come back some time because the city screams that it was a wild night life.

So here's to a relaxing day :)   Living life to the fullest!

Ah yes, the Chemistry's!

The chemistry's came and went and can I tell you, it was simply amazing!!! They came in on Friday night and stayed at a camp ground.  We went over and sat around the fire. We discussed being pregnant and all that jazz.  Mr. Chemistry has a thing for pregnant chicks :)  Then Mrs. Chemistry offered to take Mr. Learning on a tour of the cabin.  Mr. Chemistry leaned over and kissed me noting that he missed me and was happy to see me.  Mr. Chemistry leaned in and said "let's go join them".  One thing lead to another and we were all naked enjoying ourselves fully.  I loved every second of it.  It was so freaking hot.  At one point I was grinding against Mr. Chemistry, he had his hand on my neck, fingers inside of me, and I just was gazing into his eyes that had that utter lust glow.  Mrs. Chemistry was amazing, her body just stunning on how she reacted to Mr. Chemistry giving it to her in the ass.  She had a horrible run in at the waxer so her nether region was off limits so no play from me nor Mr. Learning.  I have to say that it was one of our best lifestyle moments.  Everything felt natural and safe.  They always leave me wanting more and more.  We hung out with them out Saturday and showed them around our city.  We had a good time and flirted with them.  Very hot and Mr. Chemistry whispered in my ear how much they enjoyed the prior evening.  Amazing !

I think we needed to take the past week to reflect on where we should go.  We are swinging as long as we can so sit back and keep joining our journey.  We are going to hit a club in Montreal this week.  We are only spending one night there.  We have yet to find any adult entertainment in Quebec.  I'm sure we will stumble on it!  

What to do...what to do...

It was a nice four day weekend.  We packed a ton in.  A nudist camp visit, a weekend up at the folks, and a trip to Cedar Point with the regulars.  We had a ton of fun.

As always, it was great to see the regulars.  We just enjoy who they are. They are at a stands still with the lifestyle so it will be interesting to see where they land.  The one good thing about them we can have fun with or without the clothes on.

 I'm getting a little nervous about the chemistry's coming.  Not too sure what to expect with them.  I'm also horny as hell for them both but unsure if they will want to be with a pregnant chick. I'm not that pregnant.  I so want to see Mr. Learning get with Mrs. Chemistry and I so wanted to have Mr. Chemistry in my mouth.  Humm! 

I don't know when to post on the profile that we will be out for a while. I still like the idea of hitting a few socials before throwing in the towel for a bit.  Swinging has been such a positive outlet for Mr. Learning and I so I hate to throw in the towel so early but I don't want to creep people out either.

Life is interesting...

Life is interesting...first off I found out the we are expecting our first child. We are terrified but excited.  We have been married for almost six years now so it's time.  We are at a good spot in life.  We love each other, our communication is great, and we have had time to have fun.
  
So where does that leave swinging life? To tell you the truth, I don't know...yet.  I do know that we will not be going out on any dates while I'm pregnant because that just seems way too odd.  I figure we will do the parties until I show.  Then if our friends that we have met still want to hang with us...well terrific.  We still plan on hitting the Montreal club. From there, well I'm sure I'll keep you all posted

We told our regulars.  They are estatic for us.  We went to a nudist camp ground with them Friday night and had a blast.  Its one of the best in the midwest.  We were very scared to go nude but it was okay.  There were all shapes and sizes at the camp.  Mr. Learning didn't even undress in front of me seven years ago...now he got naked at a nudist camp!  Love it! We played volleyball and that was entertaining.  They take it very seriously.  There was nothing swingerish going on in plain view.  Funny thing we noticed is that there was a ton of possible bi guys because they were grinding on other guys and smacking each others asses. Humm!

We are going with the regulars to Cedar Point on Monday.  No rides for me so I will be hanging with Mr. Regular.  We had a good vanilla relationship going with them so I'm hoping we can still hang.  There will be aspects of that being hard because I like swinging with them but I'm not to sure if they want to swing while I'm pregnant (in the early stages).  

The chemistry's are coming this weekend so we will break the good news to them.  We'll see where that goes.  They are awesome and I would love to get with them but I'm not too sure where it will go.  We'll see...but the overall cool thing is that I'm pregnant!!!!