Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Sunday, June 27, 2010
When it comings to our swinging life, well we have a few things on the horizon buy nothing too big. We have a date with the truckers on Tuesday and the chemistry's are coming into town in two weeks. They decided to rent a cabin do we are just going to chill with them on that Saturday. It looks like bike riding, dinner, and a camp fire. Then the next weekend we are going to Quebec for a music festival. We have one night in Montreal so we are going to try to hit a club. I'm still surprised that Quebec has nothing to offer swing wise. Bummer!
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Normally we would not have sex in someones elses bed but we had a dry spell. 2 freaking weeks without sex. That was horrible! I only saw Mr. Learning for 3 waking hours this week and it was stressful week at work for him so when that happens, it takes a toll on him. Plus I wasn't even in the mood but this morning when I looked at him and the morning wood I had to have him. We had a massive amount of foreplay...it was fantastic! Sometimes I just need a good fuck.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Regulars send us a dirty movie clip of them fucking. Way too much fun. Now, they want us to send them one back. I honestly wish I was in the mood for making one but during the past two weeks, my drive is totally down. This is odd because my drive is usually pretty high. Maybe I've been way too busy with vanilla life but I don't like the idea of having a dryspill and it's looking like a drought over here right now. Got to spice that up. Mr. Learning and I have been pretty busy. Work tends to exhaust us more mentally than physically and sometimes that plays into the situation. I also need to say that I haven't been feeling on my A game lately. My hair needs tending to so I put an email into my stylist and self esteem wise, well I'm trying to bolster it up again. I think I'm in a tad funk right now and I just need to get out of it. I've been harder on myself more than usual, which is not me. I just need to lighten up on myself some. I'm also travelling a lot regionally for work and I'm exhausted at night where I know I'm not sleeping enough and going in early to the gym does not give me the option of sleeping in. I hate being in this stage but being here will lead to self improvement...I know it will.
On the vanilla note, we were out car shopping as I mentioned above and I have to say, we found our car. Unfortunately, Mr. Learning wants the bigger engine. For the compromise, we are going to save some money for a huge down payment so we can get a better monthly payment on it. It's beautiful...Dodge Challenger R/T model. It will be ours in the next six months. I'm all for delayed gratification because some things are worth the wait!
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Had fun at the wedding. We left about 9:45. Never heard from the regulars so we decided to go see a movie. Our schedules are not matching with the regulars so it probably be a while before we see them again. Which I'm kind of sad about but what can you do? We finally got to see the A Team and that was fun. It was just nice to spend time with Mr. Learning.
We two vanilla weekends coming up and then the Chemistry's are coming into town so no major swing action in the forecast. We might have a dinner date in a week or two but we will see. It will be a good tiny break from the lifestyle stuff and just the regular fun stuff that Mr. Learning and I do! Though I am slightly worried how quickly the summer will go.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Thanks for the feedback on the opinions of what to share with others. This is always a fine line isn't it? You never know when you go over the line until it's crossed. It promoted a good conversation with Mr. Learning and I. I need to talk about this stuff. This is how I process things. I'm like one of those people who really need to talk things out so it's figured out/better so I can move on because I ruminate until things are sorted out in my head.
We have a wedding today so I'm looking forward to that. It's been two years since we have been to a wedding. We'll go try our new dancing skills that we have acquired in the lifestyle. We got a text from the regulars noting that their son is not home tonight so it could lead to more but who knows if we will be able to make the trip to go see them. It just depends when we leave the reception. If we could, it would be a nice evening maybe?
Friday, June 18, 2010
I think part of what's going on in our case is Mr. Learning doesn't debrief with me about things. I want to really chat things out but he's like "that was good" and that's that. For instance tonight we have the hot date with the DJs and I asked him " so if the situation presents itself tonight are you in the mood?". Mr learning replied "let's play it by ear.". To me, I would love to know so that if mrs. Learning is more vanilla or more swinger acting tonight. Mr. Chemistry noted that I should be more swingerish tonight. We'll see.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
My second observation is about myself. In the past year I'm taking better care of myself. I'm caring about my clothing (well, on the weekends that is! during the work week, I'm the same), getting my hair done, my nails done, pedicures, and trying new things. Today I had to go out shopping for some shoes because we have a vanilla event on Saturday so I hit my favorite shopping spot. I found this cutie of a dress. It shows off my best assets which is my narrow shoulders and tiny waist. I would have never worn it before swinging. I like my swinger self :)
We got an offer from a couple who we wanted to meetup with to go out tomorrow but we are passing. Four dates in a week would have been too much. We'll see if we can hook up with them down the road but our calendar is looking really busy right now. Our next free weekend is July 23rd! Where is summer going?!?!?
Monday, June 14, 2010
On a positive note, I spoke to Mrs. Chemistry yesterday and we were invited up north with them to a party in the fall. It's vanilla orientated but she is bringing a couple and we have that option too...so a condo full of swingers...damn that can be fun! Plus she helped me get out of my little funk yesterday. This "dating" stuff is beginning to hit my self esteem a tad. We discussed how we enjoy parties because people come to you so there is no rejection. Honestly, Friday was a little tough because I hate that look of disappointment. I kind of saw that in Mr. Republicans eyes. Mrs. Chemistry noted that she and the Mr. were concentrating in the parties instead of the dates. She validated my feelings but also encouraged me to look at the dating as just meeting others and being able to push the judgments away :) The Chemistry's are amazing...too bad that they live so far away. I can do this! Mr. Learning does fabulous on dates...I on the other hand do awesome at the parties. There's got to be a balance between the two
Sunday, June 13, 2010
After Friday I'm beginning to keep track of failed dates. I'm such a geek/data girl. We are up to four lack of connection dates out of the five we have done. What I mean by failed is that there is no connection via chemistry/personality/other. Though who knows if Friday should ve considered lack of connection because I've gotten 5 text messages from Mrs. Republican....if they wanted to blow us off, would they be writing? Anyways...I'm writing little notes about the date that I remember like one, the people were too damn old for us. They had NO energy. He was 56, she was 55. Their kids were my age. He kept on noting that it would be sensual to get me in the shower. No thanks! Mr. Regular has a son my age (adopted) but his energy level is not reflected in his age. He's in his early 50's but acts like a 30 year old.It's all about how you act and how much energy you bring to the table. We tend to enjoy coupled who have this youthful energy level about them.
Anyways, we will see how this date turns out. Meeting new people is always fun but it can get a tad exhausting. At least lately we are meeting some nice people :) we may not connect but they are nice. Plus it's brushing us up on out social skills.
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Friday, June 11, 2010
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
This was our first rejection and I'm definitely sure it's not our last but I bet the first one you get stings the most because we really didn't expect it. They gave off that air that they had a good time so, who knows but at least they were honest. The cool thing is that they sent us a nice rejection letter, which takes major balls and we appreciated it. Here's what they wrote "we've been talking, and it was great to meet you guys too. We thought you guys were great. Would make great friends, but we just weren't feeling it for the other stuff. And in light of what you guys told us that night, we should probably just leave it at that so as not to make anyone uncomfortable. Enjoy the summer...". I might tweak their response to us and use it in the future if we have to. The thing is, I took the rejection too personally last week. I blamed myself for maybe the lack of connection, my looks, etc. Looking back, I shouldn't have taken to heart so much but I did. The hormones didn't help me get out of my funk either.
We were this close to not going into the hotel party because of my funk. I thought if I can't be social, why should we spend the money to go? Finally on Thursday, I perked up some and was ready to go. Though, because of the monthly, we both decided that we would just go in and chat with people. We made a trip out of it. We stopped by and saw some of Mr. Learning's former coworkers and had lunch with them and then we went off to the hotel with a few stops on the way. We got to the hotel, relaxed some, and kicked back. There were 300 couples signed up for the party so it was going to be huge. We got there and there were some people there. We chatted a little with a few people. I kept running into this dishy guy who looked like Kal Penn and was flirting with him and his partner...they were adorable. I'm so into Indian guys, I have this fascination with them. We then ran into the Chemistry's and I have to say, they still take my breath away. Oh my goodness, they sure do. They brought their vanilla friends with them so we didn't want to monopolize their time but we were able to get some time in with them and it was nice....real nice. We also ran into the DJ's. They are a couple from our area who travelled down the party and they are uber cute. We have been chatting with Mrs. DJ at the parties that they work at in our area for a few months and this was the first time we got to meet them as a couple because he is always spinning the music. Totally couldn't read if they are interested in us or not but maybe we can explore this in the future because we all had terrific vibes going between us four. At one point, I looked over and Mrs. DJ was on Mr. Learning's lap and I was kissing Mr. DJ and I thought wow, this is terrific. I would so like to see Mr. Learning bang her skinny ass :) She is so tiny and I would be curious to see what they could do with each other. They gave us their cell phone numbers and noted that they have most Friday's free. Is that an invitation to call? The party had an afterparty but it was so packed, we went back to the room and I feel asleep. We trained with our trainer that morning so I was so exhausted! Overall it was a good party. We chatted with a ton of people, I kissed a handful of people, and I was able to pull myself out of my funk.
We stopped by the Regulars on the way home. It was great to see them. They were visiting their grandkids so we just chilled out and had a barbecue with them. They are going to be busy during the next few weeks. We chatted about going to a nudist camp but I'm kind of nervous to do that. I'll do it but it's still a tad nerve racking to do stuff like that.
Overall, it was a great weekend. I'm feeling better about myself. It was a totally off week for me and it's great to be out of that funk. Man, did that suck. Hopefully, that won't happen next month! Also, I think I will be able to take rejection in stride. I'll try not to take it so personally next time. It's going to happen and it's no reflection of us really because everyone has different tastes.
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
So the date went well, or so we thought. We typically send a thank you email to those we had a good time with. If we don't hear from them, we just move on. Mr. L sent them a follow up thank you and we haven't heard from them. I guess the funny thing is that we didn't notice them not having a good time. Bummer...but it happens. Oh well, but it was like drat! We like these people...because they seemed normal...maybe we were too normal for them. Who knows...?
Then on Sunday we got to meet up with the regulars. They had a get together with family so we hung out with them all day. The family cleared out and we got some alone time to chat about our adventures during the past 3 months. We haven't had any adult time so we chatted about our experiences as of late. We talked about where we are going, our pacing issues, my frustration with Mr. L and his shyness, and how the last play couple scared the shit out of me. After some discussion, they chatted about how they feel self conscious lately, they put on some weight, and not feeling as sexy. Mrs. Regular is not happy with herself :( and she is so stunning...really she is. Then she started to talk about how she would not go farther in the lifestyle because she has everything she needs in her Mr. Regular. Needless to say without saying any words, a full with them is totally out. We started to talk about how I feel that swinging has benefited Mr. L and me. I've only had four full sexual partners and felt that I was basically a lousy lover, not to creative, and I used to struggle with my body image. I feel more creative now than ever, I'm getting better as a lover, and I like my body. Then we started to talk about sex stuff and then went off to enjoy their company. It was fun but I am still feeling out of swing right now and I think it showed. In a way, Mr. L and I were expecting a vanilla day so my swinging mindset was not there so needless to say my A game was not on. Yeah..
Then the conversation with regulars kind of fucked my head in a way. It got me thinking...are Mr. L and I ready for a full? In theory yes, but after chatting with Mr. L, no we are not. He would like to do it with the right couple, the right time, and the right comfort level. He noted that the only couple he feels comfortable with is the regulars. Then I felt kind of guilty about wanting to fuck the Chemistry's. So again...pacing...and pulling back to where Mr. L is comfy and me dealing with those guilty feelings of "man, I really want to fuck those people this weekend if we get the opportunity" but we are so not there yet. No wonder people stay clear of the newbies! LOL...we'll figure it out, it just takes time.