Taking a mental health day :)

I'm taking a mental health day today. It was totally planned so I didn't have any cancellations to make with anyone but it feels so great to be off of work for the day. I haven't had a full regular work day off since July. I slept in and woke up with Mr. Learning and sent him off to work. It's 11 am and I'm still in my jammies right now. My plans for the day include getting an oil change and getting my hair cut and colored with Mrs. Regular. I haven't seen her in a month so it will be great to have a little time to spend with her. I miss them, not really in the sexual longing sense but I miss the energy that they brought to the table. It's just life, but they turned out to be great friends in addition to great swing partners. We got a call from Mr. Regular yesterday inviting us down to their house on Wednesday night. So we will be spending the night at their home and then going off to my inlaws place for Thanksgiving.

We are almost done nesting. We have been hitting it hard because our family/close friends baby shower is out our house. We invited the Chemistry's and the Regulars to our shower...funny huh? We are hoping that the Chemistry's and the regulars are able to hook up before/after the shower because they had some awesome chemistry going on. We only want the best for our friends.

It appears that I have popped out pregnancy wise overnight. On Saturday, I felt a lot of pressure in my stomach and I swore on Sunday when I looked in the mirror that my belly now is larger than my boobs. I'm a 36C girl so I was like, "Aha, there you are baby!". The only thing that was pretty small on my body was my waist so it's gone now. It's funny how your body slowly changes with expecting. I kind of thought it was going to be overnight but it was pretty gradual. My breasts are still the same size though :)

Life is good though. I'm adapting better for the future changes. I'm the type of person that hates change but I'm getting better. It just takes me a while to transition into things...

It's been a little over two months...

I haven't been here in so long, it's not even funny! Goodness...see what pregnancy brings you. I'm about 24 weeks along right now and bigger than all outdoors. That's okay though. The baby is healthy and I finally am getting back on track. I had to hit a dietician this past week because I was gaining too much weight :( Fortunately, I found the issue, eating too darn much. When I asked my doctor a few months back about my calorie range she noted to eat 300 calories more a day. Well I thought that would look like 1700-2000 but infact I should have been only eating 1500 a day. Thus the massive weight gain in two months. I basically have to maintain my current weight for the rest of the pregnancy.

Okay swinging wise, well that was done back in July. We went away with our regulars and the chemistrys in September and that was fun. Mr. Learning and I did our thing while they enjoyed each others company. It was finally nice that the regulars got to be with a cute couple. We've seen who they have been with so finally they hit in their league. We hit a party to socialize back in October to say goodbye to everyone. I have to say, it was ackward as a hell but it was a good closure to say goodbye to everyone we met. We are now officially retired in that area. We essentially have not seen the chemistry's since September nor the regulars. It's just wrapping up I guess. We are still in periodic contact by facebook but essentially, it's done too. Maybe they were all what I call transitional friends, they are in your life as long as they are supposed to be and transition out accordingly. Or maybe they were never friends, just swing partners.

So we are essentially floating right now. I'm not too sure if that's a great place to be but that's where we are. We have been busting our butts for months, getting the house ready, going back to our normal vanilla life, which is nice and quiet. Exactly where it's supposed to be, right? LOL...

This wave of sadness just flowed over me...

Maybe its my pregnancy emotions (I have to be honest, I haven't had that happen a lot at all maybe just once) but I'm sad right now. Mr. Learning is at the gym and he'll be home soon to comfort me and tell me it will be okay. I took down our profile at our site...well didn't completely take it down but just removed everything off there except that we are on a break until next fall. That actually made me get all teary eyed. It's like closing a chapter of your life...wondering where it will lead. Can we get back here once again? So I'm sad. We had an awesome year and now it's another awesome. Vanilla life with hopefully some sprinkles.

HNT!

What to do? What to do?

Okay, ever have this happen? You really like a couple a lot.  They are smokin hot, talking smoking. But...your vanilla life in the future could instersecr big time in the future? That's where we are at.  We love the DJs but Mr. DJ is in my field.  We'll he'll be in my field when his finishes his masters.  He lives in the area that I work in and most of his former coworkers have came to my work place.  I'm in a good spot with my job.  In fact I could be a supervisor down the road and thus puts me in a bind because what if in the future.  Yeah, totally enjoy them but I'm thinking we shouldn't enjoy them fully lol.  

Happy Swing Anniversary to Us!

It's our swing anniversary! A year ago today we decided to take the plunge and create a profile. It happened when we were in Colorado Springs and we just got back from a strip club. The strip club was horrible but it was fun creating the profile. Its been an entertaining year. Our lives will be totally different a year from now so we are living in the moment.

It's been a while since we have been to a hotel party...lets see two months? There's one five minutes from our house tonight so we are going. A year ago, if you would have told me that I would love hotel parties, I would have thought you would be crazy. Over the past year, I grew to love them because it's one place where you don't get truly rejected in the lifestyle. If people are truly not interested in you, they don't spend chatting your ear off and flirting. I've gotten better at communicating, flirting, and socializing at these parties. Back in the day, Mr. Learning and I supported the wall. Now we are cutting a rug on the dance floor. We'll we may dance some but I don't want to overdue it. I'm still not able to have sex or masturbate...blows but at least I can still blow Mr. Learning!

The lil bean is alright :)

I have to say that I was pretty down the past week. After the spotting returned on Monday, I was like, "oh not again". When I chatted with my doctor on Tuesday, she had me discontinue the workouts and the sex until further notice. I understand the sex part but I was really trying to barter out some working out. After four minutes of listening to me, she was like "what do you not understand? no working out at all" in her calmest, most sweetest voices because she is a really sweet doctor. She set me up for an ultrasound on Friday. I got my scan and I have a rather active bean inside of me. The sac looked good and heartbeat was strong. My fears were lifted because I swore I was not pregnant and I lost the baby. I was wrong so far so good for baby. Just a few more weeks until we are out of the woods.

This weekend is the first weekend that we are hanging out at the home alone since April or May. It's what we really need. Our pacing is run run run run and that needs to slow down. I'm going to attack the house and do some massive cleaning. Mr. Learning is going to smoke a turkey and paint. Nice, huh? We live in a cool area. Initially I did not like it because it's a little more conservative than what I was used to but living in an urban area really gets you more in tune with the world around you. Yes, there are shops that I'm dying to come to town that don't make sense why they are not here yet, but give it a few years, they will be here. So today we are going to go about life for the first time in months in our home and that feels, well terrific. Here's to a great Saturday!

HNT vanilla style...

I'm in vanilla hell this week due to spotting. No sex, even masturbation at all until they figure out why I am spotting. I also had to give up working out. It stopped when I stopped the workouts but I won't get the green light for any activities until the doctor sees my scan which is going to happen tomorrow. No hotel party for us this weekend, which makes me sad. We could go to socialize but being in the highly charged environment without being able to do anything would SUCK. So I can't drink, no sex, no masturbation, and no working out? Oh God!

Oh what an interesting lifestyle!

Energy wise I'm trying to find some.  Either the weekend kicked my ass or the pregnancy is.  

Anyways, had a great coversation with Mrs. DJ.  Haven't seen them in a month and she found out from a mutual friend that I was expecting so she was so excited for us.  I wanted to tell her in person but the cat got out of the bag...this community is so incestous.  Everyone knows everyone so information is readily shared amongst people. Watch what you say! We had a cool conversation of sharing of play...do you tell your regulars (they have regulars too) or not? We both came to the conclusion that it's best not to because what is the intent? Yes we want to tell our closest friends how much we enjoyed getting fucked but how does that impact the regulars? But then when the regulars find out, what happens? Mrs. DJs friends freaked out and treated them like crap.  She noted that they were devasted and jealous.  Mrs. DJ noted that their regulars began to diss the other couple they played with.  Thinking about our own experience this past weekend, yes we thought our regulars were kind of slumming but do you think we would tell them that? Hell no! We enjoy them and would never put them in that situation.  Too bad Mrs. DJs regulars put them in a tight spot because that does hurt and cause confused feelings.  

Another thing I learned lately that it's hard when you get to be friends with both husband and wife.  Like you learn too much where you are like "REALLY?" humm...that gets complicated.  In my line of work I deal with confidentiality all the time so my mouth is like a steal trap but man, I so want to shake the two.  They both know that there's stuff they need to work on but it's so important that they need to flush things out because it could get potentially scary which makes me want to run from them both as playmates...humm sometimes it's bad to know too much!  

We Survived the Weekend Gracefully!!!

I was able to channel my normal learning self yesterday.  I must admit that it take take a bit to come out but she came out.  Things got pretty ackward with the new couple and regulars.   We were intruding on their second date....there was no question about that. It was like what are Mr. Learning and I going to do? After breakfast we went up to the office to check in.  On our way to the office, we stopped and looked at a Subaru Outback that was parked outside of a site.  It was gorgeous.  A woman came out and noted "oh are you looking at my flat tire?" and we noted no we were looking at the car.  But Mr. Learning being the good man who he is, fixed it. She was very nice and it kind if set the pace for the weekend.  We checked in.  While the new couple and regulars went down to pool.  We walked around and it started to rain.  Regulars went into the club house to play cards with new couple.  Mr. Learning and I decided to give them some space and came back to the camper.

They come back for lunch.  We were in the process of eating and they came in.  I got a telephone call so I left for about 20 minutes.  Came back to listen to the regulars and new couple critique a woman at the shower. It was overwhelming to me.  I just got stick to my stomach.  It was horrible!  Then they wanted to go back to the pool area.  They asked us to go and I was like after their bashing conversation there was no way that u was going to go.  They were horrible.  I had major anxiety to the point that I was panicing about being naked in front of others.  So they went down.  Mr. Learning and I sat in the trailer and I was filled with utter frustration.  I didn't want to run but I knew I couldn't hide.  Decided after a while of chatting what to do, to go down by the pool.  Got there and I was straight up with people that I was scared.  A woman named Maureen had me come over and  sit by here.  We chatted and after some pep talk from her, I was able to go into the pool.  Made it into the pool and we started chatting with some people.  After a while, the regulars and new couple got up and noted "we are going back to the fantasy tent(only place you coukd have sex in the open) and back to the camper".  We told them to have fun.  We chatted with more people and we met Mr. Ray.  He was very nice after we told him our situation.  Him and his wife invited us back to their camper to have dinner.  With it being so odd at our site we jumped on the offer.  Mr. Learning and I didn't know what to do then for the next few hours.  After some talking, we decided to avoid going back to the camper and dinner was at 5:30.  Around 5:15, Mr. Regular and Mr. New Couple came down and noted that they were thinking about dinner.  We noted to them that we got an invite from a couple.  Told them thanks for thinking of us, and gave a good time.  We got ready and we had a lovely dinner with them.  They gave us a tour of the campground afterward.  Chemistry with them was nice.  We came back from dinner and the regulars were hanging out.  I asked if we were giving them plenty of couple time and they noted "don't worry about it".  We just fell back into our regular role with them by the vanilla relationship we have.  We got ready for the dance and set off.  We didn't wait for them because they were talking about getting there later so why waste time?  We met up with the Rays and danced some.  Mr. Ray touched me how I like to be touched.  Gentle kisses and hand on back of the neck.  The regulars and new couple came down and we sat by them.  They danced a little but they stayed huddled in the corner.  Mr. Learning and I got out there and danced.  They regulars and new couple announced that they were going back to the room.  We told them to have fun and we would give them some space.  We danced some mote and then we went over to a little bar called the hanger that was at the site.  We chilled more and after a couple of hours we got back to the camper.  

That's the trip so far.  I think we handled it the best we could.  We are happy that the regulars connected with another couple because we found out they have not since knowing us for the past year.  We were able to give them respectful space yet not totally blow them off. We were able to socialize and meet new friends.  

What I learned this weekend (can't include Mr. Learning because we haven't debriefed) is that we have to stop travelling in a way with the regulars.  Best bet is that we are there  but there should always be different sleeping quarters, drive seperate, don't put ourselves in a 3rd wheel position, and that we have evolved as swingers.  The regulars have turned into more vanilla friends than play partners, something I didn't want to be honest about but they have.  It's not that we won't play with them but in a way, they are staying where they are as swingers and we are changing. We are more social now chatting with everyone, they haven't changed in the past year.  I feel more confident in my people skills, I feel comfy with going up to people, leading the way, and being myself.  We'll see where life takes us but I can see us in a way distancing a tad from the regulars.  We'll still hang out but the frequency will be less because it has to be.  They need more time to pursue others while we figure out where our journey needs to go.  We are changing and learning :)           

Why why why do we get into these type of situations?

Okay so I'm sitting in swingers limbo now...regulars wanted to go to a swingers nudist campground.  We weren't doing anything this weekend so we decided to go.  Hummm...second guessing that decision now.

  They invited a new couple that they met a few weeks ago.  We havent met them prior so we didnt know what we were walking into.  The kast time we met anither couple with them it was their friends in Chicago.  They were old and freaky.  This new couple are very nice to chat with but we totally have no interest in them at all...not our type.  For me the guy is way to short and the gal doesn't bring anything to the table.  I think the biggest thing is the personality is flat.

The one thing that had gotten us in the whole is that we are feeling like we are intruding.  It started out as fine but it grew more ackward as the night progressed.  It's like we are intruding on their second date.  Very ackward...

We have this flat out rule with our friends if you want to be with another couple, go be with another couple.  If you are expecting us to be into group stuff if we are not into all parties, well I can't.  I wish I possessed the skill to fuck my husband when I'm in a situation like that but I can't.  It's like a deer in headlghts and I don't want anything to do with it at all.  I'm feeling like that today.  Who knows what the day will bring but to tell you the truth, I need an attitude fix stat!  I need to be my charming Learning self but I feel kind of trapped in this limbo situation.  I guess it makes it worse that accomodations is a fifth wheel.  When we went to bed last night the whole place was completely rocking from regulars and the new couple fucking in their own beds.  I think I need to shoot myself because I'm just kind of uncomfortable right now and hoping the day will pan out okay.  Please let me have an attitude adjustment, please!        

No snappy tittle for this one ;)

Made it back from vacation in one piece!  Rammstein was amazing.  It was such a mans concert though...flame throwers, fireworks, setting a man on fire, and stuff like that.  The coolest thing us that a member of the band got into a boat and he was surfing the crowd.  Very entertaining!  I loved people watching too because there was some amazing sights.  I don't think they could ever do  that show in the US.  So it was well worth the 16 hour trip out there. Funny thing is that when we crossed the border, we got pulled over for a random check by the border police. No issues but we were an hour later getting home :(

We have the day to chill :) run a few errands, etc.  But I have to tell you that there's no place like home.  Nothing too much on the radar right now.  We had an offer to have some friends come down from Canada that we met at a B&B this weekend but we declined because didn't want to entertain them for the whole weekend.  Instead we are going to meet up with them at a party we are attending in a few weeks.  They are excited because there are slim pickings when it comes to being a swinger up in Canada...old ugly people and other stuff.  I was chatting with Mr. Chemistry and he asked if we were planning to do stuff with them.  I have no idea if we are...we never plan for stuff like that but in a way we are not.  They are a full swap and if I was a horny full swap Canadian I would be trying to find a full and not bother with a soft swap couple like us.  Mr. Chemistry noted to me that I shouldn't sell us short but really....come on, if you are full, horny as hell, come from swingers hell, wouldn't you search out a full? Hell, I would! We'll see how it goes.

Mr. Chemistry noted that they get to land part of a couple that they have wanted to bang, this coming weekend. The female half has been given full permission to swap so she is going for it.  I guess Mrs. Chemistry is not into the male half because his dick is the size of a sushi piece and he is a sloppy lover. So they get to have an experience with her.  Swinging is an interesting lifestyle, that takes a lot of major trust to allow your spouse to have her (or his) own experiences.  I will never get to that point in our own relationship, just not strong enough emotionally to do such a thing.  I know my limits as a person and I cannot see myself going that far out.  I know the lifestyle is a progression but for me, I don't want to go that far out where it could cause some emotional issues for myself.  I'm very hard on myself emotionally plus uber sensitive (if you haven't picked that up yet) so I don't think I have any business fooling around with a full.  Prior to being pregnant, I really did want that experience for Mr. Learning with Mrs. Regular but knowing where they are at really killed that idea plus in a way, killed our desires of doing a full.  I have to say there is something safe about a soft swap...you go to that edge...you want more of course...but you just don't for some reason... 

Quebec City is amazing...

We are enjoying vacation and I'm totally relaxed now.  Quebec City is amazing!  If you cannot make it to Europe it's worth checking out because of the culture.  We saw the Black Eyed Peas on Friday night along with 60,000 other people and tonight we are going to check out Rammstein.  We also got to see a free Cirque de Soliel show and that was awesome. It was under a freeway.  They do it almost every night.  Then we raced over to the largest movie projection show.  It took my breath away.  This city is amazing, full of culture.  

I've had some spotting lately.  It's scary but the doctor noted that I cannot stop anything if I was to miscarry.  I just need to wait and see.  That sucks :( so today we are going to take it easy.  

Swing club in Montreal...

It's been hellish driving in Canada.  The traffic is a nightmare and things seemingly get backed up for hours upon hours for simple construction.  We'll have to remember that going home.  We made it to Montreal last night.  Walked some of the town and discovered that it reminded me of downtown Chicago.  Nice busy atmosphere, lots of stuff to look at, and young people everywhere.

We decided to hit club Auberge 1082 because Chez Louis was having a gang bang.  I asked if we could watch it and they noted more that they were looking for participants.  I'm not into that so having the thought of "oh I have to participate" would be thanks but no thanks! We headed off to A Auberge 1082.  It was about 10 minutes from the hotel.  We arrived and it was very clean.  Walked down some stairs, checked in with the girl, gave her $20.  She gave us two towels and noted that we are to change into them.  I was like "so I can't wear this in?" (pointing to my dress)" and she noted "no".  We get undressed in their extremely clean locker room and debate about the shoes....on or off? We sat there 2 minutes trying to figure that out until we walked out with them on only to discover that you needed to take them off so we ran back to do that.  We finally made it to the area to find one couple who were both extremely hairy and two single dudes.  We sat and chatted for a bit then we played some pool.  Mr. Learning showed me how to play.  After the game, we observed one of the single guys stroking himself and the girl hollered at him noting that he could not do that there...just up in the fantasy room. I couldn't hit the hot tub nor the sauna so after some mire chatting we left.  It would have been a killer night on the weekend.  You can just tell by the set up but on a Thursday night not so much.

I think we are going to hit some major language barriers in Quebec.  We already hit some here in Montreal.  Mr. Learning is anxious to get there to settle in.  I'm a tad nervous too so we'll see where that goes :)

Name change :)

Name change...decided to change the name of the blog to Learning to....  We are always trying to live our life to the fullest that's why we got involved in swinging and so far it has been wonderful.  Though I can't pretend that there are changes coming our way.  So the format is going to change a little.  Swinging will be involved but so will the other stuff :)

We are on our way to Quebec.  We really needed this trip.  Yesterday was a tad stressful.  I had some spotting so that had me nevered up the whole day.  We spent the night in Toronto and I have to tell you, it looks like an amazing city.  We don't have any time to explore it today so hopefully we can come back some time because the city screams that it was a wild night life.

So here's to a relaxing day :)   Living life to the fullest!

Ah yes, the Chemistry's!

The chemistry's came and went and can I tell you, it was simply amazing!!! They came in on Friday night and stayed at a camp ground.  We went over and sat around the fire. We discussed being pregnant and all that jazz.  Mr. Chemistry has a thing for pregnant chicks :)  Then Mrs. Chemistry offered to take Mr. Learning on a tour of the cabin.  Mr. Chemistry leaned over and kissed me noting that he missed me and was happy to see me.  Mr. Chemistry leaned in and said "let's go join them".  One thing lead to another and we were all naked enjoying ourselves fully.  I loved every second of it.  It was so freaking hot.  At one point I was grinding against Mr. Chemistry, he had his hand on my neck, fingers inside of me, and I just was gazing into his eyes that had that utter lust glow.  Mrs. Chemistry was amazing, her body just stunning on how she reacted to Mr. Chemistry giving it to her in the ass.  She had a horrible run in at the waxer so her nether region was off limits so no play from me nor Mr. Learning.  I have to say that it was one of our best lifestyle moments.  Everything felt natural and safe.  They always leave me wanting more and more.  We hung out with them out Saturday and showed them around our city.  We had a good time and flirted with them.  Very hot and Mr. Chemistry whispered in my ear how much they enjoyed the prior evening.  Amazing !

I think we needed to take the past week to reflect on where we should go.  We are swinging as long as we can so sit back and keep joining our journey.  We are going to hit a club in Montreal this week.  We are only spending one night there.  We have yet to find any adult entertainment in Quebec.  I'm sure we will stumble on it!  

What to do...what to do...

It was a nice four day weekend.  We packed a ton in.  A nudist camp visit, a weekend up at the folks, and a trip to Cedar Point with the regulars.  We had a ton of fun.

As always, it was great to see the regulars.  We just enjoy who they are. They are at a stands still with the lifestyle so it will be interesting to see where they land.  The one good thing about them we can have fun with or without the clothes on.

 I'm getting a little nervous about the chemistry's coming.  Not too sure what to expect with them.  I'm also horny as hell for them both but unsure if they will want to be with a pregnant chick. I'm not that pregnant.  I so want to see Mr. Learning get with Mrs. Chemistry and I so wanted to have Mr. Chemistry in my mouth.  Humm! 

I don't know when to post on the profile that we will be out for a while. I still like the idea of hitting a few socials before throwing in the towel for a bit.  Swinging has been such a positive outlet for Mr. Learning and I so I hate to throw in the towel so early but I don't want to creep people out either.

Life is interesting...

Life is interesting...first off I found out the we are expecting our first child. We are terrified but excited.  We have been married for almost six years now so it's time.  We are at a good spot in life.  We love each other, our communication is great, and we have had time to have fun.
  
So where does that leave swinging life? To tell you the truth, I don't know...yet.  I do know that we will not be going out on any dates while I'm pregnant because that just seems way too odd.  I figure we will do the parties until I show.  Then if our friends that we have met still want to hang with us...well terrific.  We still plan on hitting the Montreal club. From there, well I'm sure I'll keep you all posted

We told our regulars.  They are estatic for us.  We went to a nudist camp ground with them Friday night and had a blast.  Its one of the best in the midwest.  We were very scared to go nude but it was okay.  There were all shapes and sizes at the camp.  Mr. Learning didn't even undress in front of me seven years ago...now he got naked at a nudist camp!  Love it! We played volleyball and that was entertaining.  They take it very seriously.  There was nothing swingerish going on in plain view.  Funny thing we noticed is that there was a ton of possible bi guys because they were grinding on other guys and smacking each others asses. Humm!

We are going with the regulars to Cedar Point on Monday.  No rides for me so I will be hanging with Mr. Regular.  We had a good vanilla relationship going with them so I'm hoping we can still hang.  There will be aspects of that being hard because I like swinging with them but I'm not to sure if they want to swing while I'm pregnant (in the early stages).  

The chemistry's are coming this weekend so we will break the good news to them.  We'll see where that goes.  They are awesome and I would love to get with them but I'm not too sure where it will go.  We'll see...but the overall cool thing is that I'm pregnant!!!!     

I'm finally getting it!!! I can go on these dates now and not take things personally if there's no attraction whatsoever and just take it as a good night out. We met the truckers and they were abosultely adorable both of them but there was no chemistry at all. Just good folks...I'm proud of myself. Brought my A game, was myself, and enjoyed the experience for what it was...yah!!!!

I'm putting myself in time out. I'm taking a holiday from Facebook and yahoo messenger. I've noticed in the past few months that my online habits are becoming worse and worse so in order to unclog certain areas in my life I'm going offline somewhat. I've noticed that it's impacting my work life because it is a distraction. It's like I feel I have to check it all the time, which is totally unhealthy. I figure, I'll log into Facebook once per day and scan quickly but I'm curious what life will look like when I remove myself from those time suckers. I also need to tend to myself somewhat because I feel I'm sort of in a clusterfuck right now with nutrition. I need to focus on my healthy eating habits like I was doing a few months ago. I lost focus back in April when I lost my WW meeting. I know what I need to do, I just need to do it.

It's been nice to reconnect with Mr. Learning this weekend. Even though we are traveling, it's been great to hang out with our vanilla friends and just enjoy life. We both chatted about how in the heck did 2 weeks go by and there was no sex. We just get caught up with life sometimes and we need to slow down. We still have this running pace until the end of July but we both are going to name a conservative effort to slow down somewhat with our vanilla life. It's hard at times because we both have those emotionally challenging jobs. I've learned to turn off my work mode @ 5 but Mr. Learning is still trying to learn that. He was in a very logical profession before his career change but now he's more in an emotional career telling people no all the time (which doesn't go well with his easy going personality).

When it comings to our swinging life, well we have a few things on the horizon buy nothing too big. We have a date with the truckers on Tuesday and the chemistry's are coming into town in two weeks. They decided to rent a cabin do we are just going to chill with them on that Saturday. It looks like bike riding, dinner, and a camp fire. Then the next weekend we are going to Quebec for a music festival. We have one night in Montreal so we are going to try to hit a club. I'm still surprised that Quebec has nothing to offer swing wise. Bummer!

We are spending a weekend in Chicago with our vanilla friends. I love Chicago. We try to get over here about 5 times a year at least. We love what the city has to offer. Plans today include going to a mansion that is having an estate sale, ikea, and a trip into the city to get some BBQ at a place called honky tonk. So basically we are going to eat ourselves to death :)

Normally we would not have sex in someones elses bed but we had a dry spell. 2 freaking weeks without sex. That was horrible! I only saw Mr. Learning for 3 waking hours this week and it was stressful week at work for him so when that happens, it takes a toll on him. Plus I wasn't even in the mood but this morning when I looked at him and the morning wood I had to have him. We had a massive amount of foreplay...it was fantastic! Sometimes I just need a good fuck.

HNT!!!

It is funny how each couple sets...

It is funny how dates with couples get set up. After doing this for the past 10 months, Mr. Learning has always done the setting up of dates. Well, it's finally my turn. To tell you the truth, I understand why people do it but I do find it to be a pain because I like Mr. Learning to set things up. Chatting with an unidentified female is a tad on the awkward side for me. Like, I feel like a damn teenager. Gosh I hate that. I was supposed to call the couple last night but we were out car shopping so I wasn't able to make the call until 9:00 last night. She called back today and I'm stalling calling her back until Mr. Learning gets home so he can hold my hand through it...just joking. I just want him available so that we can firm up plans right then and there instead of this back and forth stuff. I'll let you know how it goes. There's a first for everything :)

Regulars send us a dirty movie clip of them fucking. Way too much fun. Now, they want us to send them one back. I honestly wish I was in the mood for making one but during the past two weeks, my drive is totally down. This is odd because my drive is usually pretty high. Maybe I've been way too busy with vanilla life but I don't like the idea of having a dryspill and it's looking like a drought over here right now. Got to spice that up. Mr. Learning and I have been pretty busy. Work tends to exhaust us more mentally than physically and sometimes that plays into the situation. I also need to say that I haven't been feeling on my A game lately. My hair needs tending to so I put an email into my stylist and self esteem wise, well I'm trying to bolster it up again. I think I'm in a tad funk right now and I just need to get out of it. I've been harder on myself more than usual, which is not me. I just need to lighten up on myself some. I'm also travelling a lot regionally for work and I'm exhausted at night where I know I'm not sleeping enough and going in early to the gym does not give me the option of sleeping in. I hate being in this stage but being here will lead to self improvement...I know it will.

On the vanilla note, we were out car shopping as I mentioned above and I have to say, we found our car. Unfortunately, Mr. Learning wants the bigger engine. For the compromise, we are going to save some money for a huge down payment so we can get a better monthly payment on it. It's beautiful...Dodge Challenger R/T model. It will be ours in the next six months. I'm all for delayed gratification because some things are worth the wait!

Happy Father's Day...

To all dad's out there happy Fathers Day! I am pretty fortunate to have a set of terrific folks. They are extremely hardworking and great role models to me. This time last year, I had no clue that my dad was struggling with prostate cancer. Luckily, he beat it and he is now cancer free. Go dad! He's 75 and has the energy of a 50 year old. My folks are total pervs but the good time. Mom informed me that "your dad still gets me going after all these years!". Isn't that terrific?

Had fun at the wedding. We left about 9:45. Never heard from the regulars so we decided to go see a movie. Our schedules are not matching with the regulars so it probably be a while before we see them again. Which I'm kind of sad about but what can you do? We finally got to see the A Team and that was fun. It was just nice to spend time with Mr. Learning.

We two vanilla weekends coming up and then the Chemistry's are coming into town so no major swing action in the forecast. We might have a dinner date in a week or two but we will see. It will be a good tiny break from the lifestyle stuff and just the regular fun stuff that Mr. Learning and I do! Though I am slightly worried how quickly the summer will go.

Can I say awesome date...

It was a great date and it was vanilla with sprinkles. Some flirting, some touching, and it was just nice. Great day where we both felt comfortable with the couple, chatting it up. The had to pick up the kids at 10:00 so we ended the evening. Mr. DJ kissed me in the parking lot on the way out. Which was nice because I dig him. Heck, we both noted how much we dig them. They just have all this positive energy. There will hopefully be more as they noted in a text "can't wait for more". Nice! Here's to more.

Thanks for the feedback on the opinions of what to share with others. This is always a fine line isn't it? You never know when you go over the line until it's crossed. It promoted a good conversation with Mr. Learning and I. I need to talk about this stuff. This is how I process things. I'm like one of those people who really need to talk things out so it's figured out/better so I can move on because I ruminate until things are sorted out in my head.

We have a wedding today so I'm looking forward to that. It's been two years since we have been to a wedding. We'll go try our new dancing skills that we have acquired in the lifestyle. We got a text from the regulars noting that their son is not home tonight so it could lead to more but who knows if we will be able to make the trip to go see them. It just depends when we leave the reception. If we could, it would be a nice evening maybe?

How much to share? This is something that if I had a recent redo moment I would do it. About a month ago, I think I crossed a boundary on sharing too much. I cringe when I think about it even today. I've asked Mr. Learning to help keep me in check with this because I didn't do it on purpose but it just happened. So in the lifestyle how much is it okay to share? Where do folks draw the line? In my case I shared that we screwed a couple and didn't know their name and she screwed me so hard that it scared me. Yeah I was stupid to share and I totally regret it. Live and learn.

I think part of what's going on in our case is Mr. Learning doesn't debrief with me about things. I want to really chat things out but he's like "that was good" and that's that. For instance tonight we have the hot date with the DJs and I asked him " so if the situation presents itself tonight are you in the mood?". Mr learning replied "let's play it by ear.". To me, I would love to know so that if mrs. Learning is more vanilla or more swinger acting tonight. Mr. Chemistry noted that I should be more swingerish tonight. We'll see.

The DJs confirmed their date with us so off we will go. They noted thatvthey are looking forward to it. We both are breaking some rules tomorrow that we set orginally...not breaking vanilla engagements for swinger stuff. Though, on our behalf we forgot about the vanilla stuff when we set up the date. I was supposed to hang out with a group of girlfriends and Mr. Learning was supposed to go out with his team at work...opps! Live and learn :)

HNT!

HNT to all :)

Chatted with Mr. Chemistry on yahoo today. Found out that in September when we go on the trip, Mrs. Chemistry wants us all to share the loft area. Did she say what?!?! I could kiss that woman, wait let me say I could fuck that woman *smirk*. I know plans always can change but I'm looking forward to that if it's an option. Mrs. Chemistry and I have been chatting a lot lately. When we first met them we started issuing them sexy challenges. One challenge was to give a blow job in the car and the other was to fuck in the woods. Our latest challenge is to go to an adult store and find some lube because we don't have any of that stuff :( we are so vanilla :) but with sprinkles!

Two things I have noticed about swinging is...

Here are the two things that I have noticed about swinging. We have had our profile up since mid-August of last year. Our first event was a small house party. Already, the house party group has disbanded, and three couples out of the ten are no longer together. Yeah, the lifestyle is not for everyone. We got an email from the owner of the former house party noting how his wife left him for an ex. When we first met the couple at the house party, they were quiet scary. Mr. Learning and I just sat back and watched them interact and it was pretty bad. They were totally trashed by 10:30, not attractive. Don't get me wrong, Mr. Learning and I love our beer and liquor but in complete moderation. In fact, when we truly swing, we love to be sober so we can recant the events of the night. Anyways, they gave out scary vibes so we stayed away. Another couple who was there only made it three months and they ended their engagement. People burn out and they burn out quickly. Maybe our pace is helping us...we tend to be relationship swingers. We've only fooled around with a couple once without know thing and looking back on that night, I think I made it happen for a reason. We really try to get a feel for people because very rarely can I go and think about screwing the girl or the guy. I have to like more than their looks, I have to like their personality if that makes any sense. Our pace is our pace and I'm not making judgments on others but in order for us to make this work, make it comfortable, we need this pace right now. I'm not saying that it will stay constant but at this time in our swinging lives, this is the pace. We've met a few couples who hit it running and they are doing terrific (way to go! fist pump for them!) but then when we hear swinger breaking up horror stories, it makes me worry a tad, kind of wondering "do we know what we are doing?" and then I answer my own question "why yes we do...we are going slow". I'm loving what we are doing. The couples who we clicked with are amazing people and I feel they know me in a way that others (well besides my husband) will never. I trust them more than my vanilla friends, which is something. Thats my first observation.

My second observation is about myself. In the past year I'm taking better care of myself. I'm caring about my clothing (well, on the weekends that is! during the work week, I'm the same), getting my hair done, my nails done, pedicures, and trying new things. Today I had to go out shopping for some shoes because we have a vanilla event on Saturday so I hit my favorite shopping spot. I found this cutie of a dress. It shows off my best assets which is my narrow shoulders and tiny waist. I would have never worn it before swinging. I like my swinger self :)

We got an offer from a couple who we wanted to meetup with to go out tomorrow but we are passing. Four dates in a week would have been too much. We'll see if we can hook up with them down the road but our calendar is looking really busy right now. Our next free weekend is July 23rd! Where is summer going?!?!?

3 dates in one week makes me weak...

Went in the date and they were a nice young couple.  Very young!  Lots if excitement and having a blast.  It was nice to chat with them.  So overall, a good date.  Not too sure if we will see them again but  we will be sure to say hi if we see them at a party.  We have one more date planned in the coming week and that's with the DJ's this Friday.  We have been chatting with her for a while now.  We got to officially meet him at the last party.  They are both adorable and there are some great vibes going between us all.  We will see where that goes.  After that I think we will slow down on the dates a tad.  Three in the past week is enough for me!  

On a positive note, I spoke to Mrs. Chemistry yesterday and we were invited up north with them to a party in the fall. It's  vanilla orientated but she is bringing a couple and we have that option too...so a condo full of swingers...damn that can be fun! Plus she helped me get out of my little funk yesterday.  This "dating" stuff is beginning to hit my self esteem a tad.  We discussed how we enjoy parties because people come to you so there is no rejection. Honestly, Friday was a little tough because I hate that look of disappointment.  I kind of saw that in Mr. Republicans eyes.  Mrs. Chemistry noted that she and the Mr. were concentrating in the parties instead of the dates.  She validated my feelings but also encouraged me to look at the dating as just meeting others and being able to push the judgments away :) The Chemistry's are amazing...too bad that they live so far away.  I can do this! Mr. Learning does fabulous on dates...I on the other hand do awesome at the parties.  There's got to be a balance between the two

Another date today...

We have another date planned for tonight...man we are on a roll, two dates in one weekend. This couple is a tad on the younger side for us. I generally like hanging out with the 30 and older crowd. They are 25/27 Mr. Learning set this up for us. He has been chatting with them for a few weeks. I've stayed out of the conversation because well I have no idea. Usually I like to interject a few things but this one, I haven't felt the need. The odd thing that I have noticed so far is that they only want to communicate via email. I always feel better when a couple chats with us on the phone prior to meeting.  The other thing that is irking me is that their face pics are not open to us. I just asked Mr. Learning if they are married but he didn't know so we will see how this one goes.

After Friday I'm beginning to keep track of failed dates.  I'm such a geek/data girl.  We are up to four lack of connection dates out of the five we have done. What I mean by failed  is that there is no connection via chemistry/personality/other.  Though who knows if Friday should ve considered lack of connection because I've gotten 5 text messages from Mrs. Republican....if they wanted to blow us off, would they be writing? Anyways...I'm writing little notes about the date that I remember like one, the people were too damn old for us. They had NO energy. He was 56, she was 55. Their kids were my age. He kept on noting that it would be sensual to get me in the shower.  No thanks! Mr. Regular has a son my age (adopted) but his energy level is not reflected in his age. He's in his early 50's but acts like a 30 year old.It's all about how you act and how much energy you bring to the table. We tend to enjoy coupled who have this youthful energy level about them. 

Anyways, we will see how this date turns out. Meeting new people is always fun but it can get a tad exhausting. At least lately we are meeting some nice people :) we may not connect but they are nice. Plus it's brushing us up on out social skills.

It was implusive but we met a nice couple. I don't think there was any chemistry but we enjoyed hanging out with them. Now ladies if you want to surprise your hubby you may want to check in to see how his energy is. We found that Mr. Republican spent 8 hours in the car today. Not the best set up for a date. We chatted and parted ways about 12. Interesting thing Mrs. Republican asked if we ever just meet a couple for dinner and screw on a later date. I noted we do. She noted that it is hard to go from a vanilla dinner then into bed because there us no flirting going on. Please tell me how the heck do people flirt in a public place and then get them into the hotel room because I need some coaching here! I'm pretty engaging at dinner but there's no way for me to flirt overtly, I don't want to embarass them or myself. Yeah, need to work on the transitioning aspect of swinging. Chatted with Mr. Chemistry on yahoo last night. Always great to chat with him. We were talking about how difficult it is to find 4 people who genuinely like each other. They have a lot of problems in that area. We were invited to a major upscale party where they are going to be in two weeks but we have plans to hit Chicago to see Mr. Learnings best friends...if they cancel we are so there. Though we have a date planned with them on the second week in July because they are going to be in our area. We'll see if transitioning is a problem there too. It's all fun ;)

We are doing the most implusive thing tonight...

We are on our way up north (3 hour drive) to have dinner with a couple and if we click...well some adult fun. I was sitting at my desk this morning and Mrs. Republican pinged me. We were chatting back and forth then she asked "will you both come up and surprise my husband? I would love to do this for him. He'll never believe that I could manage doing this". I thought for a few and it excited me a ton. It hit that implusive love of travel I have so I called her to verfiy the plans and to be sure I was chatting with the Mrs. And it was her. She was so excited. Called Mr. Learning and after weighing the pros/cons he was in! The swing population up here is really bad so they have only had 1 really good experience so far. Maybe the learning2swings can help. I'll post tomorrow on how well it went!

HNT

Here is my first...one my way out to softball!

I got hit with...

Last week was one of the lowest points I've had in a while. It was just rough self esteem wise. It seems like every once in a while, I get slammed by that evil thing called a monthly and it totally brought me down. With that and plus it was compounded by our very first rejection in the lifestyle...life was not to pretty in the learning2swing household :(

This was our first rejection and I'm definitely sure it's not our last but I bet the first one you get stings the most because we really didn't expect it. They gave off that air that they had a good time so, who knows but at least they were honest. The cool thing is that they sent us a nice rejection letter, which takes major balls and we appreciated it. Here's what they wrote "we've been talking, and it was great to meet you guys too. We thought you guys were great. Would make great friends, but we just weren't feeling it for the other stuff. And in light of what you guys told us that night, we should probably just leave it at that so as not to make anyone uncomfortable. Enjoy the summer...". I might tweak their response to us and use it in the future if we have to. The thing is, I took the rejection too personally last week. I blamed myself for maybe the lack of connection, my looks, etc. Looking back, I shouldn't have taken to heart so much but I did. The hormones didn't help me get out of my funk either.

We were this close to not going into the hotel party because of my funk. I thought if I can't be social, why should we spend the money to go? Finally on Thursday, I perked up some and was ready to go. Though, because of the monthly, we both decided that we would just go in and chat with people. We made a trip out of it. We stopped by and saw some of Mr. Learning's former coworkers and had lunch with them and then we went off to the hotel with a few stops on the way. We got to the hotel, relaxed some, and kicked back. There were 300 couples signed up for the party so it was going to be huge. We got there and there were some people there. We chatted a little with a few people. I kept running into this dishy guy who looked like Kal Penn and was flirting with him and his partner...they were adorable. I'm so into Indian guys, I have this fascination with them. We then ran into the Chemistry's and I have to say, they still take my breath away. Oh my goodness, they sure do. They brought their vanilla friends with them so we didn't want to monopolize their time but we were able to get some time in with them and it was nice....real nice. We also ran into the DJ's. They are a couple from our area who travelled down the party and they are uber cute. We have been chatting with Mrs. DJ at the parties that they work at in our area for a few months and this was the first time we got to meet them as a couple because he is always spinning the music. Totally couldn't read if they are interested in us or not but maybe we can explore this in the future because we all had terrific vibes going between us four. At one point, I looked over and Mrs. DJ was on Mr. Learning's lap and I was kissing Mr. DJ and I thought wow, this is terrific. I would so like to see Mr. Learning bang her skinny ass :) She is so tiny and I would be curious to see what they could do with each other. They gave us their cell phone numbers and noted that they have most Friday's free. Is that an invitation to call? The party had an afterparty but it was so packed, we went back to the room and I feel asleep. We trained with our trainer that morning so I was so exhausted! Overall it was a good party. We chatted with a ton of people, I kissed a handful of people, and I was able to pull myself out of my funk.

We stopped by the Regulars on the way home. It was great to see them. They were visiting their grandkids so we just chilled out and had a barbecue with them. They are going to be busy during the next few weeks. We chatted about going to a nudist camp but I'm kind of nervous to do that. I'll do it but it's still a tad nerve racking to do stuff like that.

Overall, it was a great weekend. I'm feeling better about myself. It was a totally off week for me and it's great to be out of that funk. Man, did that suck. Hopefully, that won't happen next month! Also, I think I will be able to take rejection in stride. I'll try not to take it so personally next time. It's going to happen and it's no reflection of us really because everyone has different tastes.

Just when you start to figure things out...

You know this swinging thing is not for the faint at heart. It's been an interesting couple of weeks. It goes from this true high to this self doubting stuff that makes me think how the heck did I get here and where in the heck did these feelings come from? The good thing is that I'm getting myself a clearer head in the past few days because there has been time to reflect some. If that makes any sense at all.

So the date went well, or so we thought. We typically send a thank you email to those we had a good time with. If we don't hear from them, we just move on. Mr. L sent them a follow up thank you and we haven't heard from them. I guess the funny thing is that we didn't notice them not having a good time. Bummer...but it happens. Oh well, but it was like drat! We like these people...because they seemed normal...maybe we were too normal for them. Who knows...?

Then on Sunday we got to meet up with the regulars. They had a get together with family so we hung out with them all day. The family cleared out and we got some alone time to chat about our adventures during the past 3 months. We haven't had any adult time so we chatted about our experiences as of late. We talked about where we are going, our pacing issues, my frustration with Mr. L and his shyness, and how the last play couple scared the shit out of me. After some discussion, they chatted about how they feel self conscious lately, they put on some weight, and not feeling as sexy. Mrs. Regular is not happy with herself :( and she is so stunning...really she is. Then she started to talk about how she would not go farther in the lifestyle because she has everything she needs in her Mr. Regular. Needless to say without saying any words, a full with them is totally out. We started to talk about how I feel that swinging has benefited Mr. L and me. I've only had four full sexual partners and felt that I was basically a lousy lover, not to creative, and I used to struggle with my body image. I feel more creative now than ever, I'm getting better as a lover, and I like my body. Then we started to talk about sex stuff and then went off to enjoy their company. It was fun but I am still feeling out of swing right now and I think it showed. In a way, Mr. L and I were expecting a vanilla day so my swinging mindset was not there so needless to say my A game was not on. Yeah..

Then the conversation with regulars kind of fucked my head in a way. It got me thinking...are Mr. L and I ready for a full? In theory yes, but after chatting with Mr. L, no we are not. He would like to do it with the right couple, the right time, and the right comfort level. He noted that the only couple he feels comfortable with is the regulars. Then I felt kind of guilty about wanting to fuck the Chemistry's. So again...pacing...and pulling back to where Mr. L is comfy and me dealing with those guilty feelings of "man, I really want to fuck those people this weekend if we get the opportunity" but we are so not there yet. No wonder people stay clear of the newbies! LOL...we'll figure it out, it just takes time.

It's always nice when you..

We went out last night. We met a nice couple and they were our NORMAL. What I define by normal is that if you would take these people and if you were to bump into vanilla friends, would you feel comfortable with them being around? Yup these are the type of people we would like to hang with. Great fun date, nice conversation, etc. I knew we would hit it off with this couple because they are pretty upfront sounding. When Mr. L chatted on the phone with the husband, he asked what were our intentions for the night. This usually makes Mr. L uneasy thinking that they will want to play on the first date, I took it as, "wow, they are cool because they are communicating well". I felt comfy with them both and Mr. L noted the same thing. We chatted a little about our experiences and it sounds like they have had a challenging go. They have been in the lifestyle for about 5 years off and on but their experiences have been challenging. That makes me feel fortunate that we've only had one challenging experience (I will tell that tale on a later date). Both were absolutely cute and adorable. Awesome energy and Mr. L was flirting last night. I was so excited for him that after we said our goodbyes to the couple for the night, I jumped around and gave him a fist pump. Mr. L has been working on his shyness and he was so much fun last night. Kudos to Mr. L! Hopefully the couple liked us and we will hear from them. We are the type of swinger couple that likes to get to know people a little more when we swing. Maybe this is not for all but we like it that way.

We are off today to see the regulars. They are having a pool party :) We are spending the night so that will be nice. There will not be any action but as usual, their company is nice and it is appreciated. Though, if there is a chance to play, hell you bet that we will be hitting that opportunity :) Life is good!

Chemistry...and coming out of shell?

We've been having some vanilla weekend's for the past few weeks. We tried hooking up with a new couple but of course, that schedule thing has been screwing us for months now. It seems like every time we chat with a couple, our schedules are not jiving with theirs. That's okay but I'm feeling mildly out of the swing of things, if that makes any sense. This past weekend we spent part of the weekend up north trying out our new tent at a scary ass camp ground. Yeah, not fun but at least we know the tent is going to work out. While we were there, we were able to hit a microbrewery and explored the town a bit. Mr. Learning2swing had a slight buzz going on and after we left the brewery we went on a trail walk and had some fun. We giggled about it because a year ago, this would have never happened. I always like it when Mr. Learning2swing has a slight buzz. He gets fun crazy and his energy is amazing. He's a very smart and serious guy so when this side of him comes out, it drives me nuts...he's way too cute. Then we had a birthday party for a nephew and then came home for the evening. We were so tired from camping, we sacked out early. On Sunday we spent the day with the regulars so it was great to see them, even if it was in a vanilla since because they had family over for the pool party. Of course we are eager to get with them again but it's not looking too good schedule wise for about another month. The weekend that they are available is a weekend we are not so it's looking like mid to late June. I keep on telling myself we are patient!

We have a hotel party coming up on the 5th of June and we are looking forward to it. I can't speak for Mr. Learning2swing but I'm excited to get out and meet up with some of our friends that we have made. We started hitting this massive party in a metro-area about 2 hours from our home. I grew up on that part of the state so when we went there, I must say, it felt like home. The party was fabulous and we were welcomed with open arms. It was amazing because we had hit parties before yet we had never had people who actually wanted to talk to us. We hit it off with quite a few couples just talking and flirty. That's where we met Mr. & Mrs. Chemistry. They are an adorable couple in their early 40s...smoking hot, both of them. He is tall as can be and I so want to climb that tree :) she is an amazing passionate woman who knows how to kiss. I have to say, both are my favorite kissers that I have experienced so far in the lifestyle. We all have chemistry but...Mr. Learning2swing shyness has been a slight factor with them. I was chatting with Mr. Chemistry last night and he noted that Mr. Learning2swing needs to show some interest in his wife. I know this and have been encouraging him to show his fun side (which comes out at three beers but I would like to see that when he is sober). Mr. Learning2swing is interested in her but his shyness is getting the best of him. It is difficult for him to be more assertive. Heck, it took him four/five dates with me to even kiss me so in a swing context, it's like "whoa, how do you get him to connect with others?". I'm kind of at a loss. I don't want to push it but there's a slight chance that we may be able to hook up with the Chemistry's but a lot of it is dependent on Mr. Learning2swing's interaction with Mrs. Chemistry and I don't blame her on this at all. If he doesn't show her interest, how can she read him? Three out of the four have excellent chemistry but it needs to be four out of the four. Chemistry's are full swap and they would like to see where the chemistry goes as...I'm wondering that too. I figure worst case scenario heavy flirting and another month goes by without playing or best scenario, well you know what that is. Now that's a nice thought!

There's a chance that regulars want to go...

I had the day off yesterday and I was texting back and forth with Mr. Regular. We have this couple that we swing with regularly so it's been nice. We haven't been with them sexually in the past two months because they have been heavily hit with vanilla stuff that gives them weekend commitments for about 3 months. Needless to say, we miss them terribly. We have seen them but we just couldn't get any adult time. Which is okay, family does come first. Come June, their commitment is going to diminish for a bit so it's like please pencil us in. Anyways, we were texting back and forth and the topic came up about "I would like to stick my cock in you" and I noted "now that would be fun" and then he said "I would like Mr. Learning2swing to fuck Mrs. Regular" and I noted "heck yeah" (as you can see I need to strengthen my sex talk a little...I'll work on that). He came back and said "Would you and Mr. Learning2swing want to do that" and I wrote back "We have talked about it and if you ever asked, we would jump on the opportunity in a heartbeat". Mr Regular said "I'm going to ask Mrs. Regular if she would be interested". Our regulars are soft swap only. They have been in the lifestyle for over two years and have yet to gone full with anyone. We know that they play with our couples but we don't ask the extent. They were our first and we of course, want them bad but understand that if they don't want a full ever, we are okay with it but man, it would be hot.

If you told me three months ago that I would be even considering a full swap, I would have said NEVER. The longer you are in the lifestyle and the more you are exposed to it, the more difficult it becomes to stay soft. That curiousity is there...it's almost like a bad hungry desire when you have chemistry with others. So we'll see but even the thought of Mr. Learning2swing screwing Mrs. Regular excites me way too much. They both are shy and Mrs. Regular does seem to bring out the best in Mr. Learning2swing. I enjoy watching them together. Mr. Regular is fun and I enjoy being with him and of course, I'm curious as all heck on how he screws. I guess this is a step in the right direction.

Weekend plans...

We are camping this weekend so it was my brilliant idea to switch our profile from our hometown to that of the town that we will be visiting. We are going up to this small northern town to visit a brewery that Mr. Learning2swing has been dying to visit for years. I figured it would be a great way to link with fellow swingers in the north. Holy profile response though. I haven't seen that many emails in our box....ever. In the past three days, we have gotten close to 25 emails. I have to say that one couple looks smoking hot. We have been chatting with them and they sound terrific. Educated, cute, and definitely our type. Maybe even out of our league? I guess we'll see. We are trying to work out the details of a get together this weekend but unfortunately, they have a baseball tournament which puts them out of town until Saturday. There's a slim chance of them getting back into town so that would be awesome if we could meet up with them for dinner and drinks...or more? When chatting with smokin hott couple, I guess the northern swing pool is full of well, not so much fun decent looking swingers. So maybe we have a chance...heck, it's worth checking out.

That's the thing about meeting new people. It's totally exhilarating but also scary in a sense that you do put yourself out there for judgment. Personality can be shown a little on the computer but what can't be shown is the chemistry and level of interest from a couple. The cool thing is that we go into a meeting situation with no expectations. On swinger website we are 1 for 3. One couple developed into our regulars, the other 2 well, they were interesting. 1 couple were so old that it freaked me out. The other couple, they were adorable but yet, no chemistry. They seemed nice and all but it wasn't there. When you are at a venue, you know almost instantly if the couple is one that you want to interact with on some level. Meeting people online is a whole different ball game...I guess we'll see but send us some swinger dust okay?

Learning to swing...

Okay, every swinger couple has their story. Some more fun than others. We started our journey about a year ago. During a fantastic weekend in Chicago, while Mr. Learning2swing was banging me, he was wanting to know my fantasy. He was drunk at the time so I totally thought it was safe so he asked if I ever thought about being with another female and I had so I mentioned it. I thought it was safe and he wouldn’t remember so I opened up and started talking about it. It was a fabulous night and the next morning we never mentioned it. Heck, we didn’t mention it for about five months.

We had a vacation popping up in August of 2009 and I saw Mr. Learning2swing had been peeking at some swinger sites. I was mortified. I remember being so pissed off at him that words cannot describe how freaked out I was. I thought then swinging was all about cheating. I did some research, came across a message board, and it helped explore my interest in it. I didn’t mention it to Mr. Learning2swing that I found the websites or the board. While on vacation, we were having a lot of fun. Hit Las Vegas for the night and went to a strip club and I was hooked. I enjoyed watching him get grinded on by the stripper and I enjoyed her too. So we decided to put a profile up on an active swinger site and the first weekend back from our vacation, we hit a house party. I was so nervous going in. My thoughts were “what if I see anyone I know?” “what if people want to have sex with me?” so I proceeded to dry heave and almost have a panic attack. Mr. Learning2swing offered to leave but I was like “we came this far…why not try?”. It was interesting. Our only goal was to observe and observe we did. It was a small venue, about 20 people set up in a regular house. We chatted with a few people and that’s it. Mr. Learning2swing had a woman molest him, I had some older guy describe how it was fun to hear your partner cum (I wasn’t really prepared for that conversation yet). We saw a few drunk couples, girls getting chocolate eaten off their boobs, and couples making out with each other. We were not attracted to anyone but it was fun to get out and observe.

Since then, we’ve hit a few clubs, parties, a swinger B&B, and a meet & greet. We have some fun stories that I would like to share, thus, this website is going to be my venue.

We are very much in love, normal, college educated, middle class income couple. We are in our mid-30s with no kids. We are not perfect looking but we are cute. I have that teacher or the librarian next door. I’m a solid size 14 so I’m not a stick. Swinging has increased my confidence in myself,helped me with my shyness, spiced up our sex life, and helped us get out a ton more. It has brought us incredibly closer and the communication is so much better than before. So welcome to our swingland adventures…